Friday, 27 June 2014

Conflict Is Essential In Close Relationships

While many of us run from conflict, it is a vital part of all close relationships. It is how we handle it that is key. Using non-violent "I messages" help us to communicate clearly in a loving manner. It is essential that we don't just employ a technique but care. And we need to express that care even when, and especially, when we are hurt, upset, etc.

Conflict in close relationships is not only inevitable, it is essential. 
Intimacy connects people who are inevitably different
 - as the saying goes, if two people agree about everything, one of them is superfluous. 
Conflict is the mechanism by which we set boundaries around these differences, 
so that each party feels safe with the other. 
 - Martha Beck, life coach.

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